Be Cautious of 3rd Parties in The Bedroom of Couples

In the eyes of 37 year old web editor Larry Smith, his life is indescribable - whether it's midnight or 5:30 in the morning, as long as he can't sleep, he can work on his laptop by the bedside at any time. However, his wife Koman couldn't bear it because the increasingly frequent overtime not only made their sexual life almost disappear, but also caused Koman to develop resentment towards the bedroom. She said, "A bed is a place for rest, not a workplace

The bedroom dispute between Larry and his wife exists in many American couples, which has attracted the attention of Duke University sociologist Lynn Smith Lawin. He recently wrote in The Times of India that bringing mobile office devices to bed can become a "third party" that threatens relationships between genders.

Mobile office devices: A survey shows that more than 4/5 of global business managers often "work overtime" in their bedrooms through mobile office devices including smartphones, laptops, and business apps. Many couples believe that this situation will affect their marital relationship.

Lynn Smith Lawin pointed out that it is not their work that puts the vast majority of senior executives in marital distress, but rather their attitudes towards marriage and sexual life. Lynn believes that her husband has already considered his wife's needs when he goes home to work, and what he needs to do is to further improve communication. Not only should he go home, but his heart should also be collected in a timely manner. Make a weekly sex plan to prevent your wife from complaining.

The proliferation of erotic films: Erotic films are originally a catalyst for increasing sexual enthusiasm between couples, but if indulged in them, they may become a "third party" in the bedroom. Always comparing one's sexual life to the passionate and romantic scenes in the film may seriously affect the marital relationship.

Anthropologist Ken Anderson believes that when couples are separated for a long time or one party is not satisfied with their sexual life, it may be possible to masturbate by watching pornographic films. This "convenient" sexual behavior can easily lead people to become addicted, ignore their partner's needs, and hinder communication between the two.

To avoid getting addicted to it, both parties need to discuss the details of sexual life and understand each other's needs. couple

As the quality of life improves, the frequency of watching erotic films for masturbation will naturally decrease. Spending more time and effort caressing and talking to your partner can satisfy the most important need for emotional communication during sex.
Children who refuse to sleep alone: Children who refuse to sleep alone always run to their parents' bedroom irregularly as "third parties". Many couples are always scared and anxious because they are worried about being caught by their children during sexual activity, and the frequency is as few as possible.

Ken Anderson believes that young parents should first educate their children that adults' bedrooms are their privacy and can only be accessed with their consent. Adults should also provide sex education to children at appropriate times, telling them that a happy sex life is an important foundation for family happiness.